Showing off or Sharing good news

Since the translation tool doesn't work well due to the fact that I'm typing Chinese anyway.
I decided to start to type in English and maybe afterwards add Chinese at the end.

Today in my work, I've been told a good news.
And I'd like to share this news with someone, so I did.
I was thinking, first it's such a good news and I'd like to spray my joy to people I care.
Second, I thought it might encouraging people by my story(you can't deny that the encouraging books are always the best sells in bookstore).
Third, I think it's nice to prove to people that I'm moving on with happiness since I'm proceeding this project (I believe if you can stay postive, then people around you will become postive..its a theary which mentioned by scientists).

And this people actually replied and rispond me that he is happy for me. (what a nice and postive conversation I thought).

After couple of hours, I needed to call one of my friend to discuss some issues, and he asked about my recently progress. Of course I told him everything (as usual).

He suddently asked me, do you really think it's a good idea to share your happiness based on those three points?

I was shocked and of course felt upset. But I just want to.......
Then I don't even have to finish my explaination because I realized ...things can't be always as "I" want to.

I forgot to think other people's situation, mood and he/her might be stressful. Maybe it's not the right time to share your life especially by text/phone call.

I overtook this "what I think is good/bad for you, what I think is helpful/useless for you, what I think is happy/sad for you"...It can't be always I think, I decide, or I tried to convince people what does better/worse to their life.

I always believe that it's neccessary to find the best answear when a friend, a member from my family or my lover who comes to me for an advice.I never ever felt I'm better than anyone else (in fact, I'm lack of confidence in so many parts).But words will be abored by different people and to be explained into another way. That's why the old saying says: Think before you talk.

Because each human being carried lots of thoughts/emotion/pressure ..ect on their mind/body. They don't need you to be so passionable to find the answears for their life.
They just need someone to talk (because we're taught not to talk to yourself or you'll be considered as a crazy paticent) and just be there.

At the end, they'll find the best solution by their own.
Surely there are some people, they can take whatever comes from your month, they might be your friend, your family or your lover.

But as I said, we all carried some certain stress, and you'll never see how much on one man's shoulder.

For me the new goal to work on since I just realized today  is :
Good things or bad things, share with yourself first (no one can love you more than yourself, you just got to believe.To be able to love yourself then you will be able to love someone else). If I want to share with someone else, always to think then talk.

Be quite when people talks, and be calm to ask : How can I help you ? I can't know what to do, but maybe you can tell me what you'd like to do. Always respect their opinion and be careful not to send your opinion without concious.


Life is fun right?
This point  I never wrote into my list, it just came!!
Opportunity is always prepared for those who are ready.

Cheers.